You’re at a crossroad and you have a choice. You could either do the next easy thing or you could could do the next right thing, which often is the hard thing. Which do you choose? Do you succumb to fear and to the voice in your head telling you “no, you can’t do that” or do you push yourself out of your comfort zone and silence the voice? We’ve all had these moments. Maybe you had to choose between following the crowd or being authentic. Applying for the job your want or applying for the one that’s safe. Cutting out a toxic friend or keeping them in your life because they’ve always been there. Throughout life we are presented with many choices. So many, that sometimes we don’t even realize that we’re choosing something.
“Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing.”
Every time you let listen to someone else’s opinion over your own, you’re allowing them to have more control over your life than you do. This is the easiest thing to do. It’s easier to listen to someone telling you what to do than it is to tell them “no,” decide to yourself what you want, and then disappoint the people telling you do the opposite. It’s hard to decide to achieve your goals, it’s hard to take the necessary steps, it’s hard to explain to your loved ones that you’re taking the road less traveled, it’s hard to boldly and unapologetically be yourself. But it’s worth it. It’s worth looking at your life and knowing that you were brave enough to choose it for you. I struggle with doing the next right thing. Guilt, fear, and comfort get in the way and my first reaction is normally to succumb to those feelings and resist pushing myself. I have been trying to make the effort to push myself to do the next hard thing instead of doing whatever is easiest and most comfortable. We all know our triggers. We may not all be fully conscious of what they are, but with a little digging we’re able to identify what and who makes us want to crawl in a ball and play it safe. I have found that it becomes easier to do the next hard thing when you have a game plan for what that is. If you’re triggered by your parents and their disapproval of your lifestyle, come up with a game plan of how your higher self would handle the criticism and rehearse it in your head before you even come in contact with them. If you find yourself continuously talking yourself out of quitting your job, when you’re motivated and fired up to quit, write down exactly what you should do when you find yourself chickening out last minute. This will help you to be prepared when you’re faced with negative thoughts and self doubt.
It’s not always easy to do the next right thing but there is so much strength in it. Comment below how you overcome challenging situations when your first instinct is to back away.
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Wonderful post and so true!!
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You are so absolutely right! A lot of times we don’t realise that we are actually making a choice and it is often these unconscious choices that make or break our life. I recently actually had an incident happen in my life that really relates to this where I realised I was keeping a toxic friend in my life and finally decided to cut her off.
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I definitely feel this the most when I’m dealing with people. It’s hard to cut people off but sometimes it’s the right thing to do