If there’s anything I’ve struggled with, it’s with saying no. I hate disappointing people and I hate being unreliable. I think most of us have grown up with the notion that saying “no” is wrong and you should be as agreeable as possible and avoid confrontation at all costs. While it might seem to be nice to always say “yes,” it can end up turning into a very detrimental habit. Sure, it might start small by saying “yes” to going with someone to the store but the habit could go as far as entering into a relationship that you don’t really want to be in and avoiding confrontation to the point that you commit to marrying and starting a family with someone who know isn’t right for you. You shouldn’t do someone a favor at the expense of yourself.
I’ve struggled with valuing myself. It’s easy to say that you love yourself but do you take your own side? If you want to quit your job and everyone tells you “no, stay.” Do you take your side or theirs? Do you follow your heart or someone else’s flawed logic? Although it’s easier said than done, it’s important to say confidently say “no” to others and stop apologizing for following your heart and making your own decisions. Lately I have struggled a lot with this. I have decided that I am going to make a real effort to start valuing myself. Some ways that I am going to do this include:
reminding myself that my life is my own
spending time with people who push me to be myself
understanding that not everyone who loves me knows what is best for me
You only get one chance at life, why live it for anyone but yourself? In the end, you have to sit with your choices and you have to be someone that you’re proud of. Do constantly disappoint yourself in order to please others?
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