“I always did something I was a little not ready to do. That’s how you grow.”- Marissa Mayer
This week I have been thinking a lot about doing hard things. Awhile go I saved the quote “you can do big and scary things” as my laptop screensaver because I wanted the constant reminder that I’m strong and capable of handling uncomfortable situations. The idea of being courageous and doing hard things resonates with me so much because I oftentimes find myself to be kind of a wimp. I have found that I’m the type of person who can really be dependable and make tough decisions if it’s necessary, but if it’s not necessary I’ll end up spending my time in my comfort zone. I’m starting to think about how different my life would be if I actually acted towards the things that I want. The main reason most of us don’t act is because we are too scared of being uncomforable. We all have two selves. The self that we show the world and the self that we truly are, the one that we tend to keep tucked away. There are many things my true self would like to do: quit my job, move across the country, travel, etc. The self that I show the world is too scared to any of that because all it hears is “what if?” I, like most people, have allowed my true self to be less happy out of fear of being uncomfortable. Isn’t that silly? No matter what, you’ll feel somewhat uncomfortable when you’re doing something that will have an impact of your life. If you’re going to be uncomfortable anyway you may as well be uncomfortable because you’re dealing with the discomfort of following your heart and not the discomfort of staying stuck.
When was the last time you did something that scared you? The last time you took a risk even though it completely freaked you out? Take out your journal (or a piece of paper, notes section of your phone, a napkin, whatever you have on hand) and write down the last time you had a moment like that. It doesn’t matter when it was. It could have been two minutes, two years, or two decades ago. The timing is irrelevant. Take a moment to jot down how you felt and how it impacted you. Take note of the physical and emotional details.
What emotions did you experience?
What did you learn from it?
How have you changed since?
Moments of perseverance are so important because they help you to grow. Hard, scary, nerve-racking situations all bring you closer to your truest, strongest self. Last night I was talking to a friend about how we let fear control us. We are strong, powerful, capable people who are letting fear and uncertainty get in the way of our ideal life and ideal self. In the moment those feelings of fear feel so real and scary, but when you really think about it, it’s pure madness to allow something so silly to influence you in that way. My newest area of focus is concentrating on being brave in weak moments. Standing my ground and showing up as my strongest, most ideal self even when it’s difficult. This week I am going to practice this by voluntarily throwing myself into uncomfortable situations. Whether it’s speaking up during a work meeting, attending an exercise class I normally wouldn’t go to, pushing myself to exercise hard, resisting food that I want to eat, and anything else that is the easy way out. This will be a challenge but I know it will reap major, life changing benefits. Who’s with me? Let’s grow together.
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